Catherine E. Miller- Attorney At Law

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Splitting a child’s time between two home is a big adjustment for any child. 

If you are splitting custody with your ex after your divorce, then your child will have to deal with some pretty big changes ahead. Splitting their time between two different house can be a difficult thing to deal with, but you’ll be glad to know that there are things you can do to help your child adjust. Check out our previous blog to learn about the tips our child supply attorney in Hauppauge already went over, and keep reading to learn more:

#3. Make the new home familiar.

When you get a fresh start, it’s tempting to throw all of the remnants of your old life away and start with a blank slate, but your child needs some of those familiar belongings around in order to feel at home in your new place. So, rather than buying all new furniture and decorations, hold on to a few keepsakes from your old home.

#4. Don’t compete with your ex. 

If you are the parent who is keeping the old house, try not to feel too downtrodden or threatened when your child raves about their new home or room. Don’t remodel or do anything else to try to compete. After all, your child is going through enough changes right now, and he or she needs a comfortable, steady place that they can hold on to.

#5. Agree on the same rules and consequences for both homes. 

There’s always the temptation to be the “cool” parent, especially during a divorce, but it’s confusing for a child to have two different sets of rules in two different homes. Make it easy for everyone involved by agreeing with your ex on specific rules and consequences for both homes.


We are aware that any family law dispute, whether divorce or separation, conflict related to custody, child support, domestic violence or neglect, can cause stress and anxiety.

As an attorney with more than 20 years experience, Catherine has represented clients in reaching divorce, custody and child support agreements.

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Divorce, Separation, Mediation, Custody, Orders of Protection, Child Support, Neglect

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