Going through a divorce is never easy.

Divorce doesn’t just affect the couple who is divorcing, it also affects their family, especially their kids. Divorce can change a child’s whole life, which is why talking to them about divorce can be one of the most difficult parts of the entire process. However, there are certain things that you can do to make the entire process a bit easier for all parties involved. The following is a list from our divorce lawyer in Hauppauge of a few tips for talking to your children about your divorce:

#1. Be as honest as you can.

Try to be as honest as you can be about your divorce when explaining it to your children. However, this doesn’t mean that you should bring up every little thing or point fingers. Give them simple answers that are honest, like, “We just don’t get along anymore.”

#2. If possible, talk to them after you’ve agreed on certain decisions. 

Decisions that affect your children’s life, like who they will live with, if they will be moving to a new school, etc., should be discussed before you sit down and talk with your children. If this is not possible, be open about it and let them know that you will give them answers as soon as you can.

#3. Don’t point fingers or blame your spouse.

Blaming your spouse or pointing fingers may be tempting, but it will only confuse your children and lead to a sense of instability in your home. Be respectful and show restraint, after all you are talking about their mother or father.

Stay tuned for our next blog to learn more tips for talking to your children about your divorce.